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Friday, February 16, 2018

Tragedy in Parkland, FL

 

Photos above: School shooting inspired school letters going out around the country this week. How to talk to your kids about senseless violence (brought to you by toxic masculinity and our gun worshiping militarized society).

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Another school shooting. I don't want to keep saying that. But here are the details:

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-43081361

The victims:
https://www.cnn.com/2018/02/15/us/florida-shooting-victims-school/index.html


An action:



There is always a rash of calls for gun control or an assault weapon ban after a mass shooting. Liberals calling Congresspeople to account for their NRA money. All good things. Conservatives always responding with - wait a minute families need time to grieve and don't politicize these children's deaths. Of course we should be beating down the door of elected representatives and calling them to account and voting out those who prize guns over our lives and safety. We need laws. Thoughts and prayers don't make laws. Lawmakers make laws. Sometimes. Gun control is a very good thing, we should absolutely be talking about that after a shooting, but not the only issue. Also, mental health and health care are very good topics to talk about, but not as a convenient excuse for another white male abuser. The gun fetish and misogynistic culture along with white supremacist terrorism in America is a better place to start.



From Facebook:






Why is this happening to us?? 


In retrospect Sandy Hook marked the end of the US gun control debate,” Dan Hodges, a British journalist, wrote in a post on Twitter two years ago, referring to the 2012 attack that killed 20 young students at an elementary school in Connecticut. “Once America decided killing children was bearable, it was over.”
What Explains U.S. Mass Shootings? International Comparisons Suggest an Answer
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/07/world/americas/mass-shootings-us-international.html


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Ultra Violet and others have been pointing this out for some time, that there are some very real correlations between gun violence and toxic masculinity. It's a welcome change from thoughts and prayers and the mental illness cop out. If mental illness were the driving force here, the statistics would look a bit different. 

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/gun-violence-toxic-masculinity-tweets_us_5a85ead4e4b05c2bcac8ec08



A thought and a prayer from Twitter:



After the Las Vegas shooting four months ago, it became popular to declare that that common condolence, thoughts and prayers, is not enough. This is still true and we need to call Congress again.

https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2017/10/thoughts-and-prayers-politicians-las-vegas-shooting/



Also from Facebook:






But it is good to see a spotlight even if only journalistically on mass killings and domestic violence:

Of Course Florida School Shooter Was A Girl-Hating White Supremacist. Of Course I Am Tired Of Writing This Article.
https://wonkette.com/629807/of-course-florida-school-shooter-was-a-girl-hating-white-supremacist-of-course-i-am-tired-of-writing-this-article


Control and Fear: What Mass Killings and Domestic Violence Have in Common

https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/16/world/americas/control-and-fear-what-mass-killings-and-domestic-violence-have-in-common.html

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My post on Facebook with accompanying links:

Along with guns, white supremacist violence is a problem no one (Congress, White House, FBI and police) wants to identify. Everyone wants to excuse the men who kill this way as a lone wolf or mentally ill, yet there are more telling patterns with these guys (white supremacy, domestic violence, basically toxic masculinity).

https://www.salon.com/2018/02/15/white-supremacy-group-florida-school-shooter-was-a-member/

https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2018/01/the-resurgent-threat-of-white-supremacist-violence/550634/
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And Twitter with another reality check:





Aaand finally, just what are these gun rights that are so important they trump the lives of school fulls of children:

Monday, February 12, 2018

Urgent! This is true!

I am embarrassingly fascinated by these things- how they spread, who passes them on, how long they survive, what tactics they employ to compel a person.


Via messenger in the present, February 12, 2018:

In the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, Abraham asked the Lord to spare the city if he could find 50 righteous people. God responded to Abraham's plea "If I find in Sodom fifty righteous within the city, then I will spare all ....Genesis 18:16-33The movie "Corpus Christi "is due to be released this June to August. It is a disgusting film set to appear in America later this year which depicts Jesus and his disciples as homosexuals! As a play, this has already been in theaters for a while. It's called "Corpus Christi" which means "The Body of Christ". It's a revolting mockery of our Lord. But we Christians can make a difference.That's why I am sending this e-mail to you. If you do send this around, we just might be able to prevent this film from being shown in Australia, Canada and America etc. Let's stand for what we believe and stop the mockery of Jesus Christ our Savior. Where do we stand as Christians? I am forwarding this to all I think will respect and appreciate being informed. Please help us prevent such offenses against our Lord. There is no petition to sign, no time limit, or minimum number of people to send this to.It will take you less than 2 minutes!If you are not interested and do not have the 2 minutes it will take to do this, please don't complain if God does not seem to have time for you. Imagine what would happen if this film were depicting Mohammad in the same way...the Islamic world would be in flames!!. Apparently, some regions in Europe have already successfully banned the film. All we need is a lot of prayer and a lot of E-mails.JUST GET THE WORD OUT!....Will God be able to find at least 50 righteous people who are willing to express their concern and voice their opinion against this act of blasphemy?

It is true... so please forward to everyone you know


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My usual source will give you the history. Conservatives tend not to like this site. OOh- has Snopes rated that - Conservatives don't believe Snopes' research? I should look that up- but for now:


https://www.snopes.com/politics/religion/gayjesus.asp


Just on the surface, it's pretty funny. Or you could call them red flags. I love how there was no studio executive's address, no concrete film information or times, no state officials to address complaints to, no specific information really, just an exhortation to get angry or offended and email your friends. The premise is wonky, too- it seems like an odd position to take given that Christians are to show Jesus' attributes to others through actions, not by banning everything and trying to control their perception or trying to protect Jesus' reputation. Does he need that?


Also great is that it says "this is true" which you don't really say unless you know for a fact it's spurious to begin with. Another highlight is how they just moved it from the 90s email to messenger without updating the wording. I'm a little disappointed it didn't promise a wish for each person I forwarded it to - or predict my doom if I fail to act within 10 minutes of receiving it.



Before Googling the thing to see what was what, I started to think of the nature of the hypocritical request and Christianity and wrote this:

Seems like people should be more interested in giving and being kind and campaigning for peace instead of war- all the good things the Bible teaches in order to spread Christianity.. . Banning films and books (among other things, like abortion, alcohol and divorce) is both ineffective and impossible and doesn't teach people any of the good things you want people to know about Christ like peace or love or kindness towards your neighbor. I would think the Bible approach (rather than this urgent message to help ban a film) would be who cares what they think of you, you just live the Bible and the truth will prevail if he wills it. And if the truth doesn't prevail, you ran your race (2 Tim 4:7), turned the other cheek (Matt 5:38-40) and you'll be justified in the end with you eternal reward. The Bible, as I understand it, doesn't teach that you are to control everyone else's actions to be found faithful.

Also, this Christian tendency for knee jerk bans that appear to be a litmus test of faith reminds me of some Muslims trying to ban disrespect of Mohammed (there was a cartoon in Denmark?) or a dictator banning disrespect of himself. Book and film bans are impossible to police and an abysmally ineffective evangelism tool since bans usually give free people a goal or mission to unify around and fight for. If Christians start living the peace and love in the Bible, the Quakers do a pretty good job on that front, that would go farther in demonstrating the respect one needs to have for Jesus than just banning things and demanding respect be given arbitrarily.





Friday, January 12, 2018

Scene On: Seeing White - Episode 8 Skulls and Skin



Seeing White - Episode 8 Skulls and Skin
Several good book references are in this link, books by the authors/ experts he speaks with.



I'm also reading this collection of Steven J. Gould's natural history essays called Bully for Brontosaurus:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/33935.Bully_for_Brontosaurus
p229-240

One the same day I hear this podcast, Skulls and Skin, I also read the essay Petrus Campers' Angle.

I originally thought they discussed Camper and Gould was somewhat dismissive of much culpability, saying he was a product of his time, so I was thinking- uh oh. But I'm going to sort out who the podcast talked about and where this guy I just read about fits in- and how I should feel about him. 

Petrus Camper- b.1722 in Leiden. Artist who became a professor of anatomy in 1755.

He was bothered that for the one traditionally black Magi in paintings (one of three was always black), they apparently used a European model and just painted them black and he wanted to see a more accurate representation. Skull measuring would help him understand this difference as well as why children weren't painted in their proper proportion either, so he measured young and old too. 

His facial angle is the beginning of craniometry and later became known as the father of scientific racism as his work was used as a springboard for bigots who wanted to use science to justify a conclusion they had already made up. He is problematic in that he assigned beauty to white Nordic types and Greek statues - I say arbitrarily- but of course it's because that's his in group. The image of the progression of beauty in the book is racist in that it has an ape with the lowest angle, then a black man, then a Greek statue as representing perfect beauty. Though his work and question he was answering weren't racist, he left the door open for those who wanted to to make some pretty wild claims. He was a monogenist though and stated that the skin color is not obtained through your genes, so he's got that going for him.

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Now for these other guys mentioned in the podcast.

Samuel George Morton collected skulls from the 1830s- 1850s and considered the father of American physical anthropology. This is where I may have become confused. So many fathers. So this is the guy who was trying to prove the superiority of white people. Not to be confused with the guy who started measuring skulls. . .

Linnaeus (Sweden) is the father of taxonomy and he gave us the name homo sapiens in the mid 1700s. He described four types of humans.

Johan Friedrich Blumenbach (Germany) is the father of anthropology and named five types in the late 1700s. He gave us the term Caucasian because he thought people who looked like him were beautiful and also another arbitrary declaration of the supreme beauty of Georgian women, people of the Caucasus.




Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Oprah 2020? Are we going to do this every single time?

After the Golden Globes, Oprah gave a stirring speech railing against misogyny and we all needed to hear that. It was a great speech. But really? President? I woke up to a sea of calls for her to run for President and petitions like this for her to run. We do NOT want that.

Remember the Zuckerberg hubbub?

He did some philanthropy stuff in Texas and got the rumor mill grinding. I'm not sure if that was exactly the start, but I found an article from January 2017 to that effect. We were all hoping to ring in the new year with female leadership and renewed push for equality in all sectors on the heels of 8 years of our first African American president. When that didn't happen, maybe people were grasping at straws and looking for a person acting more like a leader than what the electoral college gave us- which would have been almost anyone else- but many people all at once, at that time, fixated on Zuckerberg. . .

Now, part of this negativity or so called hyperbolic hate I'm about to unleash on Oprah, she doesn't deserve personally. The idea I'm attacking is that of looking to celebrities to solve our problems and believing they care about you or know about you because you watch them on TV five days a week or heard a great motivational speech they made. We worship celebrities in this country and we need to think bigger and be introspective, especially when it comes to the office of president. Don't limit yourself to entertainers because one is now president. We can reset the bar. This is still a democracy more or less. We know- if we read a little and think- what qualifications a president needs or what level of humanity we would like to see in a world leader.


On Zuckerberg, don't forget the environment he came from, lest we forget- you don't want to bring that to the White House:



Back to Oprah, this week's celebrity prez fantasy. . . and my week of Facebook micro blogging.


No no no no no no no no noooooo.

We can't afford to lower the bar. You do not want a celebrity. Yes, anything is better than the steaming pile of garbage in office now. Don't compare the future president to THAT.

Maybe you do want a celebrity. Maybe we are a nation of vapid idiots incapable of rational thought or any introspection whatsoever.

I give up if we are seduced by every person who gets up and puts words together in a semi coherent fashion without lying every other sentence. Every person who gives a moving speech is now qualified to be president.

Unsubscribe.


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The quote here really sums it up.
Oprah Winfrey for President: Have We All Gone Bonkers? https://theintercept.com/2018/01/08/oprah-winfrey-president-2020-trump/


As CNBC’s Christina Wilkie, in a rare dissent on Twitter, put it: “I love to watch Oprah saying inspirational things on television. But also I love to watch people who have political experience being elected to national office.”

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And thank you Twitter for reacting to Ivanka Trump, first daughter who sometimes doubles as first lady or advisor. She loved Oprah's speech and people gave her a pretty hard time for not seeing the irony given her dad's treatment of women.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/ivanka-trump-oprah-speech-praise_us_5a5434aee4b01e1a4b18c4af

Also good - on her confusing "role" from Trevor Noah - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OtHi4hWunaQ

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This headline is quite succinct- people are missing the point of Oprah's speech. Bravo.
https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2018/01/people-are-completely-missing-the-point-of-oprahs-amazing-golden-globes-speech.html

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I posted this from the angle of really, people, don't promote her for president. Do you see what her advisers and cabinet would look like??? I get that Obama was considered a lightweight, but he lived outside the US, had two years as a US senator and was a constitutional law professor. She wouldn't be prepared, she doesn't have a resume.

https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2018/01/oprah-presidential-case-marred-by-promotion-dr-oz-jenny-mccarthy-others.html

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And last, from 2015, but she's probably still a great neoliberal thinker and we don't want that--

https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2015/may/09/oprah-winfrey-neoliberal-capitalist-thinkers

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I wouldn't choose her for president, but congratulations to her of the Lifetime Achievement Award. 
It was a great speech. And here it is.
http://www.cnn.com/2018/01/08/entertainment/oprah-globes-speech-transcript/index.html

Scene On- Seeing White

Scene On- Seeing White


Scene On has a fantastic series going on. It's 14 episodes about race, addressing things white people don't see because they don't have to. I think it could promote a lot of good conversation and self examination. The first one or two episodes are kind of in introduction, but it builds, getting exponentially better with each episode. By the 5th, I had to take some notes and write them out. Probably no one reads this, but I want to remember these things.



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Episode 35: Little War on the Prairie (conveniently episode 5 of the Seeing White series)

This one is primarily about an episode in the Midwest happening at the time of the Civil War that was happening in the east. There is a monument in Minnesota saying how hundreds of settlers were killed by the Dakota warriors. The process of uncovering the actual history and trying to teach the context and actual facts is detailed. I can't do it justice, but Gwen Westerman does in the episode.

AND she wrote a book! 

Also a point that grabbed me was how in the reteaching of the actual facts of the altercation, there was a terrible disparity in quality. One teacher quoted on the show maintained a familiar ethnocentric narrative that you can hear in the Palestinian Israeli conflict or in the run up to our invasion of Iraq of any number of conflicts which is- THOSE people attacked US because that's the only was they know how to solve conflict. We are superior. We use our words to solve problems. And we had to kill to defend ourselves, not because we were trying to steal others' land. That's not an exact quote; I read between the lines a bit.

Tim Tyson captured this problem of mis-remembering on purpose toward the end of the episode: 

And yet there's no memory that white people opposed the Civil War. There's no memory of General Pickett, of Pickett's Charge. He came to Kinston, North Carolina, in 1864. And the first thing he did was he hanged 22 local white boys on the courthouse lawn because they were loyal to the United States government. And you go down to Kinston now and you go out to King's Barbecue, and you look down the row of cars at all those trucks and all those Confederate flag bumper stickers. And I just want to say, you don't know who you are. They hanged your great granddaddy and you got their flag on your bumper. That's kind of interesting.

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This one is about the faux superiority of white northerners over white southerners over the topic of race.

This is a topic I've heard many white southerners complain about, especially when I wanted to talk about how we should take all the Confederate monuments down in the south and how it isn't about history or heritage unless there are memorials also to slaves or black people who were lynched, be they slaves before our time or people like Henry Marrow in 1970. 

There are people who wanted to redirect me to talk about how the North isn't so great either, which is both true and  was a diversion from a necessary confrontation that needs to happen.

Also covered in this episode was some overlooked nuance of the PC and anti-PC camps. I often deride (I'm guilty!) the anti-PC crowd for not acknowledging that it is in fact not good to use racial epithets, but I didn't see what they may have been getting at but never clearly delineating- that PC is sometimes partly a code for educated whites to beat up others, to use that as a class distinction. I mistook it for a primarily party divide before, but it was a class division. I don't agree with that use of PC, I always saw it as essentially the golden rule- don't call people names, be kind, treat people with respect.

Also in the episode, Tim Tyson talks about living in Wisconsin as a southern transplant. He heard the complaint of those people from Chicago coming over to get the welfare, which was code for those black people coming to take something of "ours." This kind of thing isn't acknowledged as racism so much as the memory of the segregation in the south, but is just as present and poisonous.

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Sunday, January 7, 2018

Some book recommendations



January 2018
I made a list of some things I've read that I like. No one really asks me what I read, but here you go! 

Barack Obama's reading list here :) I'll admit I took some suggestions from him.

FICTION

Rula Jebreel
Miral

Susan Abulhawa
Mornings In Jenin
The Blue Between Sky and Water- haven't read yet

Elif Shafak
Bastard of Istanbul

Orhan Pamuk
*Museum of Innocence
Snow

Zoe Ferraris
Finding Nouf – series

Chinua Achebe
Things Fall Apart

Haruki Murakami
The Strange Library
*The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle
Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage
Norwegian Wood
After Dark

Kazuo Ishiguro
The Buried Giant
Never Let Me Go
Pale View of the Hills
*Artist of the Floating World
The Remains of the Day




John Irving
*A Prayer For Owen Meany
The World According to Garp

Barbara Kingsolver
*Poisonwood Bible

Monique Truong
Bitter In the Mouth   A girl who tastes words.

David Guterson
Snow Falling on Cedars

Umberto Eco
Island of the Day Before

Nabokov
Invitation to a Beheading
Lolita

Jack Butler 
Jujitsu For Christ

Halldor Laxness
Under the Glacier
Iceland’s Bell
Independent People

Flaubert
Madame Bovary


D.H. Lawrence
Lady Chatterley’s Lover

Albert Camus
The Stranger


Stanislaw Lem 

Cyberiad
Star Diaries
Solaris



Henry Miller 
Tropic of Cancer
Tropic of Capricorn

Margaret Atwood 

The Handmaid’s Tale
Blind Assassin

Karel ─łapek 

War with the Newts

Philip Roth 

Portnoy’s Complaint
American Pastoral

I Married A Communist - haven't read yet, how did I miss that?
Human Stain

Thomas Pynchon 

Gravity’s Rainbow


Fyodor Dostoevsky 
Crime and Punishment

Lebov Tolstoy 

Anna Karenina

Voltaire 

Candide

Kurt Vonnegut

Breakfast of Champions
Deadeye Dick
2BR02B
Player Piano
Cat’s Cradle
Slaughterhouse-five

Galapagos

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NATURAL HISTORY, SCIENCE, RELIGION

Mark Kurlansky   Cod


Tom Holland   Rubicon


Bart Ehrman   Jesus Interrupted, Misquoting Jesus, Jesus Before the Gospels, How Jesus Became God


Edward Abbey   Desert Solitaire


Raja Shehadeh   Palestinian Walks: Forays into a Vanishing Landscape


Richard Dawkins   The God Delusion


Christopher Hitchens   God is Not Great


Vonnegut    A Man Without A Country, Letters



Ernst Mayr One Long Argument


Stephen J. Gould 
Mismeasure of Man
Full House
Bully For Brontosaurus
Wonderful Life


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Rupi Kaur

Milk and Honey

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RACE

Michelle Alexander
The New Jim Crow

Timothy Tyson
Blood Done Sign My Name
The Blood of Emmett Till

Trevor Noah
Born a Crime

Bryan Shih
The Black Panthers: Portraits from an Unfinished Revolution

Ta-Nehisi Coates
Between the World and Me

Angela Y. Davis
Freedom Is A Constant Struggle


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PROGRESSIVE MOVEMENT, SEPARATION OF CHURCH AND STATE?

Susan Jacoby

Freethinkers


Steven Waldman
Founding Faith: Providence, Politics, and the Birth of Religious Freedom in America


Jeff Sharlet
The Family: The Secret Fundamentalism at the Heart of American Power


Amy Goodman
Democracy Now!: Twenty Years Covering the Movements Changing America


Naomi Klein
Fences and Windows: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the Globalization Debate



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FEMINISM 

Lynn Povich
The Good Girls Revolt: How the Women of Newsweek Sued their Bosses and Changed the Workplace


Read together- two views of the foundation of the feminist movement
My Life on the Road by Gloria Steinem
In Our Time by Susan Brownmiller


Irin Carmon
Notorious RBG


Jilll Lapore
The Secret History of Wonder Woman

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

We Should All Be Feminists

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MEMOIR AND JOURNALISM

Loree Rackstraw 

Love As Always, Kurt (love correspondence with Vonnegut)

Philip Weiss

American Taboo

Jon Krakauer

Three Cups of Deceit: How Greg Mortenson, Humanitarian Hero, Lost His Way


Neil White
In the Sanctuary of Outcasts


J.H. Hatfield
Fortunate Son: George W. Bush and the Making of an American President

Najla Said
Looking for Palestine: Growing Up Confused in an Arab-American Family

Laura Ling
Somewhere Inside: One Sister's Captivity in North Korea and the Other's Fight to Bring Her Home


Roxana Saberi
Between Two Worlds: My Life and Captivity in Iran


Jennifer Steil
The Woman Who Fell From the Sky Woman teaching journalism in Yemen.


Jillian Lauren
Some Girls: My Life In a Harem


Kim Barnes
In the Kingdom of Men


Blair Tindall
Mozart in the Jungle: Sex, Drugs, and Classical Music


Azar Nafisi
Reading Lolita in Tehran


Ghada Karmi
In Search of Fatima
Married to Another Man


Read these two together, they have different memory/ rendering of certain historical events:
Jehan Sedat  My Hope For Peace
and
Queen Nur  Leap of Faith


Diane Rehm !!!
Finding My Voice

Helen Thomas

Thanks for the Memories Mr. President


Victor Ostrovsky
By Way of Deception: The Making of a Mossad Officer


Firoozeh Dumas
Funny in Farsi


Azadeh Moaveni
Lipstick Jihad

Kai Bird

Crossing Mandelbaum Gate: Coming of Age Between the Arabs & Israelis 1956-78

Emma Williams

It's Easier To Reach Heaven Than The End Of The Street: A Jerusalem Memoir


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ABOUT THE OCCUPATION OF PALESTINE

Illan Pappe

Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine

Jean Zaru

Occupied with Nonviolence: A Palestinian Woman Speaks


Suad Amiry- you'll forget you're reading nonfiction and about horrible tragedy
Sharon and My Mother in Law


Raja Shehadeh
When the Birds Stopped Singing: Life in Ramallah Under Siege
Strangers In the House: Coming of Age in Occupied Palestine


Omar Barghouti
Boycott, Divestment, Sanctions: The Global Struggle for Palestinian Rights


Edward Said
Blaming the Victims: Spurious Scholarship and the Palestinian Question


Paul Findley – former Senator, helped me understand some of the problem early on
Silent No More: Confronting America's False Images of Islam


Seymour M. Hersh
The Samson Option About Israel and nukes. Old but good.


Jimmy Carter
Palestine: Peace Not Apartheid Maybe not the best work on the conflict, but good to hear something other than Israel worship from an American leader.


Sandy Tolan
The Lemon Tree

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TO READ:


Edward Abbey – fiction

Salinger
Gogol
James Baldwin
Flannery O’Connor
William Manchester A World Lit Only By Fire
Mary Beard SPQR
Sarah Jaffe
Mychal Denzel Smith 





Saturday, December 16, 2017

Wonder Woman and Me

*I have no idea whose image this is - I would love to give credit where credit is due - it appeared on Facebook in an ad on a t-shirt website known for selling stolen designs. . . 


I've started reading The Secret History of Wonder Woman by Jill Lepore and just the title took me back to my childhood and also feels relevant in this Trumpian world and moment where we're holding a few men accountable for their sexual harassment and assault.

This is the one:
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/24/books/the-secret-history-of-wonder-woman-by-jill-lepore.html

It is a year after the Women's March and we've endured much of what we expected from our tiny handed Cheeto in Chief, more of the same sexism and misogyny along with the demand that we accept it by way of him bragging about such and being given the nation's highest office by the Electoral College. I found it interesting that Wonder Woman became an icon in this moment, then the movie came out-  and on further investigation I was surprised to find that she has always been there. 

I have a somewhat conflicted memory of this particular character in the first place and that mixes with my current knowledge and her resurgence in popularity. 

On the one hand, I'm seeing her now as a feminist icon- strong, righteous (I mean her weapon is the TRUTH! Right?), chosen to lead. Also though, as much as I want to see the movie, the actress, Gadot, has been exposed as a settler colonialist cheering the deaths of Palestinians. She conflates terrorists and civilians and celebrates murder- I might give her a pass for not understanding if she hadn't been a soldier. I don't think the film should have been banned as some demanded, but I think we must discuss that and compare and contrast it with the character she plays and how we want our world to be.

Moving on. . . 

As a child, I was a tomboy. That moniker seems outdated now, but I'll use it for a point of reference. I hated dresses because I wanted to play soccer and kickball and hang on the monkey bars without everyone seeing my underwear. I'd have played with anyone, but usually the things I like to do were dominated by the boys. I was comfortable with them, they liked to do what I liked to do. I never really remember feeling out of place with regard to clothes or activities in the under 10 age group I'm thinking about right now, even in the religious school I attended in Indiana in the mid 80's. And then Wonder Woman will happen and you remember when your world got a little smaller.

In sports and other games, I had no trouble joining in, even being very introverted/shy. When the group of boys wanted to change it up and play superheroes, things got a little less easy, but I rolled with it. I didn't watch the shows or read the comics, so I had a limited knowledge of who I wanted to be. I totally relied on their advice, which wasn't so much advice as unimaginative pigeonholing. Why do I have to be a girl when you can't really shoot lasers out of your eyes. . . ?  I always went into the choosing of the characters with some excitement- I mean there are guys who can be invisible, climb walls, shoot fire- whichever ones were popular in the 80's, I can't remember and I still don't read those comics- but it was incredibly fun to think about being able to do any of these things. Swinging on the bars felt like flying- how would it be to just take off into the clouds. Who would I be? I could be anything I wanted, this was pretend. Nothing was off the table in my mind. I didn't give it a second thought. One guy always had to be Green Lantern. I'm sure he had a good reason- we all let him have that by default. When my much anticipated moment came, I was chosen to be Wonder Woman. Fine. I had no idea what was so great about her. Nothing, I thought. She has a rope and she's in her underwear. And she's the only girl, like me. I should have guessed. GREAT! The first time probably wasn't so bad honestly, but it became a pattern. One I came to dread. I was always the girl. I never got to try anyone else and I disliked the inevitable "choice" of character for me. Can't we go back to kickball? But I had a friend who wasn't so athletically inclined, so I felt bad about not wanting to do this thing he liked better. I remember that disappointment well- you think all possibilities are wide open, you can be ANYTHING you want. But not really. It's an illusion. Your bright, sunny, wide open world is now a narrow, dark hallway. The game is rigged and you really have no choice. I had no idea how close to the truth I was at that point in life at just 7 or 8 years old.

Melodramatic? Maybe if it were one incident. Women continually endure things like this throughout our lives and the balance of them can be soul crushing. I'm sure I'm not the only one. This is simply one of the first times I remember it happening. It's not a bad memory necessarily. I wonder if anyone from the time remembers it differently. Memory is a funny thing. 

Some 33 years later, I'm finally embracing Wonder Woman. I may even love her. She came to the US to fight for peace, justice and women's rights! How did this even exist then- in the 80's or in the 40's or now for that matter? I can't wait to find out.